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And Then Some Approach
  > An attitude of gratitude And Then Some
  > Eight steps for raising your standards And Then Some!
  > Mindfulness is a way of seeing things as they really are And Then Some
  > Simple Suggestions for Improving Your Life And Then Some
  > The Core of the "AND THEN SOME" Philosophy Part 1
  > The Core of the "AND THEN SOME" Philosophy Part 2


 Education
  > Dealing With Mediocre Teachers
  > Effective Learning Means Being a Student of and for Life
  > Get a College Education!
  > Hidden benefits of college
  > The link between homework and success
  > What is the Importance of Public Education?


 Family
  > A weekend with the grandkids And Then Some...
  > Most fathers have no idea the influence they have on their children
  > The best things in your life were planted by the tender hand of your mother


 Gender
  > Because of the way they are wired, often women make better leaders than men
  > Gender differences need to be acknowledged, accepted, and exploited


 Humor
  > How do you develop a sense of humor?

  > A Gathering of Scientists


 Messages
  > The message citizens don't want to hear
  > Ten messages kids don't want to hear
  > The Message Men Don’t Want to Hear
  > The Message Parents Don’t Want to Hear
  > The message relationship partners don't want to hear
  > The Message Students Don’t Want to Hear
  > The Message Women Don’t Want to Hear


Miscellaneous
  > Christmas is about people
  > Dear Mom and Dad: Lives and then some
  > A fourth grade perspective on the world
  > Gifts that keep on giving
  > Reasons why the Law of Attraction (LOA) is a myth
  > The first anniversary of posted essays


  Politics
  > Random thoughts on the presidential election of 2008
  > What qualities make a good president?
  > If truth is to prevail, image consumption must be replaced by word devotion
  > Making sense of political rhetoric: What are the keys?
  > Make a Choice...


  Public Speaking
  > A Testament to the Power of Speech
  > Fear of Public Speaking: A Method for Overcoming It
  > How do you give “the speech of your life”?
  > Impromptu Speaking Without the Fear and Panic
  > Leadership is not a bag of tricks - It depends on values, vision, and communication
  > Martin Luther King’s ‘I Have a Dream’ speech — The greatest and most notable speech in history
  > Six time-tested ways dealing with fear of public speaking

  Relationships
  > Five Reasons Why Talk Is Essential to Relationships
  > Relationship Luck Takes Hard Work


  Self Help   > An analytical approach yields confidence and satisfaction
  > An attitude of gratitude And Then Some
  > Are you skeptical regarding change?
  > Be aware of the myths that guide your life
  > Eight steps for raising your standards And Then Some!
  > Eliminate Every Excuse?
  > Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure
  > Forget about resolutions and promises — Take care of your new car!
  > Fundamentals first before fun!
  > The fun in FUNdamentals! — How to find the fun in all FUNctions!
  > Healthy Selfishness Contributes to Being Effective, Efficient, and Productive
  > Live life to the fullest!...
  > Mindfulness is a way of seeing things as they really are And Then Some
  > Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps
  > Secure your foundation: Forget resolutions
  > Self-discipline can change your life in any way you want it to
  > Simple Suggestions for Improving Your Life And Then Some


 Sports
  > The Super Bowl: All American - All Excess!
  > The Super Bowl And Then Some
  > Michigan versus Ohio State: Just another football game? It’s a game And Then Some


 Thought provoking
  > A “thinking” environment should be at the core of any true democracy
  > The "feel good" pattern
  > We Get What We Deserve When It Comes to Alcohol Overuse and Abuse


 Travel
  > World geography and then some
  > When "camping" becomes exceptional
  > Traveling by guess and by gosh
  > Traveling by guess and by gosh II
  > Travel While You’re Young
  > Canoeing the Pine River
  > Celebrity’s Millennium plies the Mediterranean with an emphasis on service and satisfaction


 Very Personal
  > Why do I read? It has the potential for transforming how I think and feel
  > Trying to understand everything
  > Being “handy” is a quality that never ceases to be useful


 Writing
  > So you want to write a book?
  > A Beginners Guide to Writing a Book
  > Do you want to be a writer?
  > How to overcome the curse of knowledge in teaching and writing
  > On being a writer --- an irresistible compulsion!


Humor... And Then Some
Having a laugh... And Then Some!

Scientists at the And Then Some Publishing, LLC, (ATSP) laboratories located in the prestigious residential community of Palo Alto, California, close to Stanford University, have developed a technology that will determine whether or not listeners, readers, subscribers, and others (unfortunately the technology is not refined enough to distinguish among these), have an interest in, will want to read, and will put to use material in the next book ATSP will publish.

The technology allows technicians to determine, based on an experientially situated paradigm, whether or not those studied have an interest in and can use a rule-based format.


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> How do you develop a sense of humor?


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A Gathering of Scientists
 
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How do you develop a sense of humor?
by Richard L. Weaver II, PhD

I’ve always admired people who can tell a joke. Just remembering all the details to make the joke storyline accurate and interesting has been difficult for me. I enjoy watching comedians, and I’ve always been amazed at how they derive humor from common, everyday lifetime events. It just seems so easy and natural. I’ve also harbored admiration for those who are the life of a party. People gather around them just to hear them share stories, anecdotes, delightful trivia, and humorous asides. These are the people who everyone wants to sit by, talk to, and have around. Why can’t I be more like them?

It is clear from casual observation that having a sense of humor can have a positive effect on your life. Think about it. A sense of humor is good for your health. Also, it enlivens relationships, relieves stress, helps you deal with pain and discomfort, enriches your creativity, encourages positive thinking, helps people get acquainted, enhances your ability to solve problems, energizes meetings, strengthens your effectiveness in the world, and, above all, feels good and makes other people happy. A sense of humor is a characteristic of successful people.

If you are an employer you probably already know that with a sense of humor employees will rate you as more effective at getting things done and more concerned about their well being. A sense of humor is the most important ingredient females look for in a partner, and humor and laughter are the social glue that help create trust and familiarity in relationships. For teachers it is one of the top-rated elements that separate good teachers from bad on student rating forms. Also, if you are a person with a sense of humor people will not only feel comfortable in your presence, but others will find it easier to approach and converse with you. It is a sense of humor that builds rapport between you and others and, too, a degree of trust. It even makes strangers feel welcome.

From these examples alone and, too, from the many benefits, it is easy to see why doing everything you can to build or improve your sense of humor can pay rich and immediate dividends. So the question becomes, how do you develop a sense of humor? Can you do it?

Obviously, for some it will be easier than for others since some people have a natural, comfortable easiness already. A sense of humor is affected by personality, gender, and even level of intelligence. That explains why one person may burst into laughter upon hearing a joke while another my scorn or even become angry.

Did you know that researchers have shown that many people judge the physical appearance of people with a sense of humor much higher than the physical appearance of dull people even if their actual looks are about the same?

The most important place to begin in developing a sense of humor is with yourself. Don’t take yourself too seriously. The fact that you are not perfect can become one aspect, perhaps the first, in helping you build a sense of humor. When you become aware of your own behavior, you will quickly discover that we all make mistakes — your stumbles and fumbles can be a starting point. If you can begin to laugh at your mistakes, or find an inside joke about yourself, you have a place to start. Share it with those who will appreciate it — your friends and family members. The ability to laugh at yourself is the mark of a person with a great sense of humor.

“Self-deprecating humor,” Chuck Gallozzi says at the personaldevelopment.com website, “is positive because it encourages humility.” In his essay, “Sense of humor,” Gallozzi, continues by saying, “It also fosters courage, for that is exactly what is needed to remove the mask one normally wears and expose one's weaknesses to all.” That’s why there is such humility in laughing at yourself, because it rips off the mask of pretentiousness, affectation, and artificiality and, thus, reveals the human behind the facade.

The second important place to begin is by looking at and appreciating life around you. It’s so easy and natural. Even if you have a spark of talent in this direction, you can improve on it and cultivate it by simply improving your observational skills. Observe nature to find the unusual or bazaar. Look at things in your environment — the things with which you have contact everyday — to discover the atypical, unexpected, and odd. Also, and this may be the most important one, examine other people. Become a “people watcher” not just to see them but to discover the humor in human behavior — the unconventional, peculiar, and freaky.

The third place to begin developing a sense of humor is by watching funny things, reading funny things, and surrounding yourself with funny people.. All of these suggestions are worthy of consideration; however, there is no need to try them all at once. Proceed slowly. Situational comedies on television can help you with a sense of timing, but you have to remember that the jokes you hear on such shows have been previously written and memorized; people are seldom that funny in real life.

Reading funny things can help you. If you collect and read books on humor, you gain information, true, but it can serve an additional function as well.. The book, How to be funny on purpose: Creating and consuming humor, by Edgar E. Willis, for example, gives specific instructions on how to construct jokes and humorous material. Once you are aware of how jokes are constructed, you will become a more knowledgeable consumer. You will know what makes certain jokes work and others fail. You will know, too, the circumstances when jokes should be told and when they should not.

Developing a sense of humor is important, and it has many benefits, but if your personality and disposition tend to be a bit reserved, formal, cool, stiff, or wooden, it will be a more difficult task than for those who are predisposed to humor through their nature, mood, and temperament. When your entire frame of mind easily gives way to comedy, funniness, and kidding, the contrast becomes obvious and easily observed. It is almost as if some people are born with the “funny-gene,” and others are not. However, that does not mean anyone cannot work toward developing and incorporating more humor in their lives — and for heavens’ sake, this world needs more people with a sense of humor, no matter how slight, or seemingly insignificant that might at first appear. Minimal is certainly much better than none at all.



I highly recommend Chuck Gallozzi’s essay, “Sense of humor," at personal-development.com. Gallozzi’s subtitle is: “When you lose your sense of humor, you lose your footing,” and he summarizes his essay in this way: “Summarizing, a good sense of humor keeps us lighthearted, and hopeful. Like Thomas Edison (1847 ~ 1931), we'll be able to say, "When down in the mouth, remember Jonah. He came out OK." As long as we maintain our sense of humor, we'll never be poor. How will you know if you have a good sense of humor? Frank Tyger explains, "The ultimate test of whether you possess a sense of humor is your reaction when someone tells you you don't.."

In this interesting and informative essay by Dr. Brian G. Gilmartin, “Sense of humor,” he writes, “The ability to spontaneously laugh is important not only from the standpoint of being looked upon favorably by others, but also from the standpoint of sheer physical (medical) health and longevity.” Gilmartin focuses on relationships and particularly the “love-shy” problem, and he concludes, “Nevertheless, it seems quite apparent that an inability to be spontaneously real in one's interactions with others is a very central aspect of the love-shyness problem..” This essay is an excerpt from his book: Shyness & Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatment (University Press of America, Inc., 1987), Pgs. 417 - 418.



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A Gathering of Scientists
by Richard L. Weaver II, PhD

Scientists at the And Then Some Publishing, LLC, (ATSP) laboratories located in the prestigious residential community of Palo Alto, California, close to Stanford University, have developed a technology that will determine whether or not listeners, readers, subscribers, and others (unfortunately the technology is not refined enough to distinguish among these), have an interest in, will want to read, and will put to use material in the next book ATSP will publish.

The technology allows technicians to determine, based on an experientially situated paradigm, whether or not those studied have an interest in and can use a rule-based format.
What the scientists worked on first was fundamentals. Through a scientifically developed procedure called “Remote Information Disclosure” they discovered the role that learning fundamentals plays in people’s lives. What they uncovered was that people preferred building a solid foundation and knew that fundamentals opened alternatives and options. It surprised scientists when they realized people also knew that fundamentals supercharged creative juices, offered them strength, supplied the license, permission, and authority to act, gave confidence and security, offered a base for experimentation, and supplied a way to evaluate outcomes and assess results. Scientists were stunned by the erudition and perspicacity of their subjects.

When scientists detected the fact that most people preferred learning the basics before proceeding to higher-order thinking and doing, they knew that a rules-based, ordered presentation of ideas would be welcomed.

Scientists at the ATSP laboratories in Palo Alto then developed a series of intricate, methodical, statistically based, controlled, experimental studies that used before and after comparative populations, local central limit theorems and high-order correlations of rejective sampling and logistic likelihood asymtotics, and controlling for independent but not necessarily identically distributed random variables, in a variety of environmental settings, each with a designated control group, designed steps that would move people from a fixed beginning point to an intangible and evasive culmination whose objective would be to yield feelings of consummation and fulfillment.

Throughout the experiments, the goal of the scientists was to accurately record all of the acts, abilities, and skills demonstrated by study participants. This was accomplished through the use of MP3 VoiceRecorders, video cameras, as well as trained, paid, on-sight observers. These notes were gathered, collated, and transcribed, and the results have been preserved for public record in the United States Government Archival Records and Transmissions Office (USGART) in Washington, D.C.

After working out progressive steps, and after explicating the competence levels necessary to attain each of the prescriptions, scientists gathered in focus groups to work out specific details and record their findings in ways a lay public could comprehend. Each focus group had a designated participant to take notes, reduce jargon to understandable verbiage, and make the final report for each group.

At first scientists called their results theories, but they knew there would be people who would misinterpret these “theories” as untested suggestions that did not have proof nor universal acceptability. Axioms, maxims, and canons were other considered possibilities. One scientist wanted to use the word praxis because, for her, it represented the precision and accuracy of their work. Finally, after much discussion and debate among the various groups of scientists, the word “rules” was finally agreed upon — but only after several hours of discussion and debate. The minutes of these final discussions reflect lengthy debate and much disagreement.

To put their rules to a final test, each of the participating scientists was required to prepare a brief, formal, final public presentation. The primary requirement for this presentation was that it had to follow precisely the rules they had established, and the success of each presentation would be measured — by the other scientists, a gathering of family and friends, and a group of trained, paid, objective professional observers — by how faithfully, accurately, and literally each presentation subscribed to the requirements set forth by the rules the scientists had previously agreed upon.

For the purposes of the experiment, a standard, objective evaluation form was constructed by a paid, outside, contracted agency. This was the evaluation form used independently by each of the groups. Monitoring of the use of the form was performed by the West Lake Detective Agency. The firm was paid to make certain all judgments were independent and that no group- decision making occurred during the evaluation period.

The day arrived, presentations were made, listeners responded enthusiastically, critical evaluations took place uneventfully, results were tabulated by an independent comptroller, and the results were announced at a final banquet.

The news media were invited to the banquet, and the results were picked up by the Associated Press, and all the local television stations reported the results on their nightly newscasts. There was, at that time, wide support and strong encouragement for the results to be compiled in such a way that they could be made available to the general public. This feeling compelled one scientist during the business meeting that followed the final banquet to present a motion to this effect.

The vote on the motion was unanimous. There was loud and uproarious applause, and with the announcement of the result of the vote, all participants rose as one to not just acknowledge the results of the vote but to support the need to have the results published.

It is with great pleasure and a great deal of pride that ATSP has been given the privilege of publishing these results. The title of the book is Public Speaking Rules! All you need to give a GREAT speech, by Richard L. Weaver II, and when it becomes available it can be purchased at Amazon.com.

Happy April Fools’ Day! Everything in this essay is false except the last sentence of the paragraph above. (As of this writing, the book is in the final stages of preparation.)



At “Museum of Hoaxes” (http://www.museumofhoaxes.com/hoax/aprilfool/) , “The Top 100 April Fools’ Day Hoaxes of All Time,” there are not just a numbering or listing of all the hoaxes, but there is a brief discussion of each one, and they are listed in hierarchical order as judged by notoriety, absurdity, and number of people duped.

The Wikipedia website under “April Fools’ Day” (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/April_Fool's_Day) offers information on the “Origin,” “Well-Known Pranks,” “By Radio Stations,” “By Television Stations,” “By Magazines and Newspapers,” “By Game Shows,” “By Websites,” “List of April Fools’ Hoaxes,” “Real News on April Fools’ Day,” “Other Prank Days in the World,” and “April Fools’ Day in Media.” It is an impressive presentation of a wide variety of information.



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